secret candy drawer...

With all of the serious blogging lately, I thought I would include some fun moments over the past week.

Uncle Jason is one of Jada's new favorite people!

Pinky...the balloon that is bigger than Jada from Aunt Shannon.

We went to a fall festival at the park with some friends..Jada didn't want to actually get into the bouncy castle where the kids were jumping into eachother and falling over (a little to rough for our soft-hearted girl) ...so she bounced on the outside in the safe arms of her daddy.

Some of Jada's closest friends :)
"Carolina- Ethan- Cruz" or in Jada's version "Catonina- Etin- Cwuz"

These are two things that I am thankful for today:

1. Jada's version of the ABC's that floats in and out of what I know as English, but she carries a great tune.
2. my secret...or not so secret candy drawer...it is just secret because Jada doesn't know about it...YET!
   

a deep breath

A few words to describe the last week or so:

• foggy
  
• tear-filled
• hopeful
• freeing
• more tears
• loving the body of Christ in new ways
  
• trusting
• peaceful
• yet more tears...
• still in need of prayer
  

I have cried daily. Some days harder than others. I have realized that every day I miss her more, not less. Little things that I have realized that I hoped for, or planned, or expected these days to hold are exactly the opposite. For example...We had a friend of ours,Kelly, live with us August-October before she got married. So, instead of moving Kelly's stuff out and painting Mia's room, moving Jada out of the crib, hanging up Mia's clothes that we already bought, etc...we restore the office as it was before Kelly moved in, leaving Jada in her crib a little longer, folded Mia's clothes and sadly placed them in a trunk. It stinks...really...there is no way around that. I have spent many hours in the "office" over the past few weeks. I have done a lot of singing and worshipping in there with my hands literally lifted up in surrender...I really don't know what else I can do. I have had some really sweet moments in there as I have been utterly convinced of a few things...

Which leads me to last weekend. Brian and I were able to attend a conference in Austin about Job- suffering. There is a fun story about how we were able to go the conference...but that is another story :). John Piper was the teacher and it was absolutely a gift to Brian and I. The conference began exactly two weeks after we lost our precious Mia. I described those days like this: when I arrived I was an emotional wreck. The Thursday before we arrived was no doubt the hardest day yet. I was just really sad and felt like an absolute outsider to the world. My mind believed God and the many truths that I have placed my faith in about who Jesus is...but my heart was broken and I couldn't feel anything but pain...Heart and Head disconnect in a big way! When we left the conference on Saturday my feet were firmly planted in truth and my heart matched what my head believed. We were washed in the word and truly our faith came by hearing the word of God magnificently taught. And the greatest part is that I have remained in that steady place of faith by the mercy of God! I already told you I've cried every day...but in the pain I have this deep joy and peace in loving God. A few things that I was able to say after the conference...

I went to Mia's grave and said to her and to the Lord "Jesus rescued me from the absolute pit and I absolutely treasure Him more than anything else He could give me...including my precious babies." My words were broken through convulsion like tears...but absolutely meant. So, I am saying to all of you who take time to read through this long post...Jesus is better and I trust Him with my future so much more than I trust myself...and if that means suffering and pain or if that means ease and delight, He is good and He knows what would be best to bring the Kingdom of God to the earth, and as people that have been rescued from our various pits...that is really what we all want.

Another wonderful thing that happened is this...a few days after we lost Mia I began to become anxious about Jada and worried about little things like if her runny nose was more than it seemed and I would just beg the Lord not to take Jada away. The visual that I had of myself during those days was me holding Jada so tightly and never letting go...literally. Totally led by fear. I would pray and cry knowing that this was not a safe place to live and like I said before, my head knew better, but my heart was all over the place emotionally. A wise woman in my life spoke directly into my soul saying "Jesus is a giver...not a taker." This same wisdom was spoken through the conference: "Satan aims to destroy your faith, but God aims to strengthen it." Amen...through this I have been more free as a mother over the past week. It is almost like the sentiment of the old hymn "Because He Lives, I can face tomorrow, because He lives all fear is gone, because I know who holds the future, life is worth the living just because He lives."

I wanted to leave you with this... Piper shared a quote from George Mueller...who Brian says is the guy who was responsible for radically loving orphans in England in the late 1800's...a real man of faith. This quote was spoken after George Mueller lost his wife. It brought tears to my eyes when Piper read it and took a deep breath as it sunk in...this is where I want to be as I grieve Mia...this is beautiful:

"I miss her in numberless ways, and shall miss her yet more and more. But as a child of God, and as a servant of the Lord Jesus, I bow, I am satisfied with the will of my Heavenly Father, I seek by perfect submission to his holy will to glorify him, I kiss continually the hand that has thus afflicted me."

Our Mia

It has been one week and 3 days since we held our daughter Mia. She was precious...she was beautiful...her tiny hands and feet were amazing and she was perfect. She gave me hope in a glory to come like I have never known and I will never be the same. My heart aches and tears pour out as I wish so desperately that I could of had more time with her here. The many things that I imagined doing with her are brought to my mind moment to moment. I dreamt of Mia's personality being both different and similar to Jada's. What color hair would she have? Would she like to follow her big sister as she plays? I dreamt of pictures that I couldn't wait to take of her and books that I was hoping to read to her. I could wait to carry her in a sling close to my heart and I longed for sweet moments together in the night. I've never known grief or love or loss or hope like I have over these past 10 days.

Already Mia's life and death has taught me and Brian so much about who Jesus is and how He really does love us immensly. When I would talk about Mia and how we were naming her Mia Carolyn (who is like the Lord, the free one), I would consistantly say "I can't wait for her to teach us how to be free." And she has already begun. At Mia's funeral Brian was able to share from his heart the beautiful ways that the Lord has already changed him through Mia. Our family will forever be changed!

It has been the hardest time in Brian and I's life...but Jesus has been near to us each moment. Some of you have written e-mails or texts or left messages and we cannot thank you enough. We have felt carried by your prayers and lifted by your love. We have been overwhelmed by the body of Christ across the nation through letters, phone calls and e-mails...thank you for taking time to love us and carry us nearer to the Lord even though we cannot physically hold hands and walk together through this time. Our local body here has been amazing in ways that we never have known. We have known the great Shephard more because of the ways we have been loved and protected. We are thankful to have your hands to hold over the coming months.

We truly ask you to please keep your prayers coming as we learn how to live and to grieve...that is the biggest way you can help us through this season. We love you and we are thankful for your love.

I wanted to leave you with a few scriptures and quotes that have come alive to us as we have mourned the loss of our precious Mia and as we look ahead with hope.

Psalm 36:8 "For with You is the fountain of life, in Your light we see light."

Psalm 16:11 "...in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore."

1 Corinthians 15:54-56 "When the perishable has been clothed in the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true; "Death has been swallowed up in victory."

I Will Carry You- by Selah

There were photographs I wanted to take

Things I wanted to show you

Sing sweet lullabies, wipe your teary eyes

Who could love you like this?

People say that I am brave

but I'm not

Truth is I'm barely hanging on

But there's a greater story

Written long before me

Because He loves you like this

So I will carry you

While your heart beats here

Long beyond the empty cradle

Through the coming years

I will carry you

All my life

And I will praise the One Who's chosen me

To carry you

Such a short time

Such a long road

All this madness

But I know

That the silence

Has brought me to His voice

And He says...

I've shown her photographs

of time beginning

Walked her through the parted seas

Angel lullabies, no more teary eyes

Who could love her like this?

I will carry you

While your heart beats here

Long beyond the empty cradle

Through the coming years

I will carry you

All your life

And I will praise the One Who's chosen Me

To carry you

and an Elizabeth Elliot quote..."here is my chance to learn what death is about- to take up the cross, that is, willingly to accept the will of God which went so strongly against the grain of my own...for as we loose our hold on visible things, the invisible become more precious- where our treasure is, there will our hearts be."

Finally another update...does Jada's sis have a name? How old is Jada now???

Hi friends! It has been too long since we posted and I hope to stay a little more current! So...have we come up with a name for Jada's sis? YEP...her name is

Mia Carolyn

Mia- "who is like the Lord"

Carolyn- "the free one" ....also Brian's mom's first name :)

She is growing well and I am happy in the second trimester!

Onto other news...Jada turned two last week! If you ask her, she'll tell you that her name is Jada Becka or sometimes her name is Jada MiMi...she'll tell you that she is two while she holds out five fingers, and if you ask her what her sister's name is she'll tell you in the all time sweetest voice "Mia".

We had a great time celebrating her life with friends and family last Saturday. We had an unofficial Elmo party. I was weepy about how quickly she's grown and how my heart honestly hurts thinking about how deeply I love her! She is a joy to be around and she continues to bless me every single day in new ways. She is a tender hearted little girl who is full of compassion. Jesus has been so good to us through such a sweet and fun gift in Jada. My prayer is that she would learn to trust Jesus with all of her heart and that Brian and I would be really good shepherds.

Here are some fun pics from her party...thanks for all of you who came to celebrate with us! She loved it when we sang to her :) She also loves to dress up which you can see :) I had to include two of the best photos by Elmo...Uncle Jason and her friend Sophie (who obviously is a natural in front of the camera :))

Sister or Brother??????

Brian and I went to our beloved doctor yesterday with hopes to find out if Jada will have a little brother or sister. After the doc chased the baby around my tummy (the baby was kicking and wiggling all over the place :)) she spotted the proof of what gender this baby is...in fact, she cought the baby 3 different times to prove it...we are so excited and we thought we would let Jada tell you...

yep...very girly...

Recently Jada has been trying on our shoes and attempting to walk around in them...so, of course I thought it was only right that I get her a pair of dress up shoes. She loves them...she says "My Shoes!" and sits in her beloved Elmo chair while she puts them on and attempts to walk in them. Only one shoe was successfully worn around the house...until today! She was so pround of herself! It was super cute so of course I needed to add some photos to see her sweet little legs in her very girly dress up shoes :) Oh, and the white dog in the back isn't ours...it's my mom's :).

Our official summer vacation update...

We are back after a fun get away to New Braunfels and to South Padre. We had a great time visiting Brian's family. We got to relax and hang out with Brian's parents and we went to a friend's wedding where we got to catch up with some old friends! We took Jada and her cousin Madyson to "Natural Bridge Wildlife" to feed animals out of our car window...it was fun. Jada was very serious about throwing the animals the food as if their only source of food depended on her. She was not excited about feeding them straight from her hands...but throwing it at them was fun! We all agreed that the ostrich is the strangest looking creepy creature!
We also went to Chuck-E-Cheese and we absolutely didn't need to turn the games on for Jada to have a good time. She loved turning the wheels and sitting next to Chuck-E...she leaned over and gave him a few kisses she was so happy!


After New Braunfels we drove to meet my family in South Padre. Jada did great travelling and she was thrilled to see her cousins Allison and Emily! We did so many fun things...went to the beach daily, played in the pool outside of the condo, saw clowns and pirates, got cheap henna tattoos and lots of fun other adventures. Jada was a little hesitant of the beach at first, but it was only a matter of time until she was off running! Brian and I even got to go on a date while we were there...you'll have to ask Brian about his massage by "Bertha :)" It was a great time!

Lake House Fun...

Over the 4th of July we all met up with some of Brian's college friends and their families. We had a great time playing on the boat and riding the jet ski's. Unfortunately, Jada and I caught a bug and were sick for part of the time, be other than that...we had a great time reconnecting with old friends! It was fun to watch the guys laugh so much!

We are now off for our family vacation to New Braunfels with Brian's family and to South Padre with my family. I will update in a week or so with new pics from all of our adventures!

a fun update!

I have done a really poor job of updating our blog...I've been extra tired and a little sick to my stomach...but I am feeling much better now...because I'm almost at the end of my first trimester of pregnancy!!! We are expecting Baby Lee #2 in January 2009 :) We are so excited and thankful to the Lord for giving us this sweet gift of another child! He/She is the product of our prayers and our friends and family's prayers....so praise the Lord!

In other news...Jada (the big sis) is talking up a storm and is really becoming her own little person. A funny story, we were at "The Farm Patch" yesterday, a local fruit and veggie store. The sweet old man that runs it brought Jada a banana to eat while we were shopping. She took it gladly, said "Tay Too" (translated Thank you) then blew him a kiss....all without any prompting from mom. The sweet man loved it too:) I have attached some recent photos I took of Jada.

Our good friends, the Cavins, are moving to Tennessee on Saturday. They are truly like family to us and we are really mad at them for moving...just kidding, but we will miss them like crazy. Jada and Sam, their son, are great friends and Jada will miss Sam a lot too. We really are excited about what the Lord has in store for the Cavin family in Tennessee...Drew earned his PHD at A&M and is going to be a professor at a school there. So, we love you Cavins...you'll be missed! I have attached a couple of fun photos of Sam from our photo shoot the other day...the last one is a bit too symbolic to not be staged!

our fun weekend!

Brian and I celebrated our 6th anniversary, the Hollands visited and Jada loves her princess towel...How is that for a summary?

For our anniversary, My mom and Mike surprised us with a beautiful new grill! I had actually planned to get Brian a grill but Mike decided to bless us with the grill that he would choose for himself..which happens to be a much nicer grill than the one we would be able to buy! So...THANKS again and check out how much meat this grills at once!

Our friends, the Hollands stayed with us this weekend and Jada LOVES Faith, Jacob, and Carissa! I think Jacob wins the best entertainer award for the weekend...almost everything Jacob did would make Jada giggle, laugh and then belly-laugh! They had so much fun.

And the final pic is a precious pic with a fun story...our wonderful friends, the Phinney's, really love Jada in fun ways. Their youngest daughter Becca decided that Jada would really like her princess towel...so she was so generous and gave Jada her princess towel! This weekend we put the towel to use and we think the gift is a hit! Jada loved it...seriously, she just wanted to keep it on (unlike her normal towels). So, THANKS Becca! We love you.